Long weekend
Gods, I feel like I've been away from the office for months. I'm utterly out of sync. Perhaps it's just that I relaxed for a few days, but maybe I'm just noticing something that's been there for a while...

Thursday night I went, with a lover, to a gathering for a personals site I belong to. I'm not sure quite why I was going. I'm not sure why I check into their chat room either. One of my lover's has observed that the more turmoil there is in my relationships (good or bad), the more time I spend in dating chatrooms. I'm not allergic to finding a date, but I can't say I'm really looking. As it was, there were a number of folks who wanted to meet me, and I just wanted to get out.

I took the lover-who-shall-remain-nameless (it's so awkward talking about my life and not mentioning some people) with me and we ended up at a restaurant in Sunnyvale. There were several huge tables of people in the bar, some of whom I had already met. Nothing clicked. Nothing. Nil. Zip. Nada. Gods, that was so depressing. We took seats at the end of one of the tables, I ordered the most disappointing martini I've ever had in a bar (Note to Self: Never order a martini in a Mexican restaurant), and she ordered a margarita that was a bit stiff. We ordered food and sat and people watched.

This went on for about fifteen minutes. We had occasional small talk and introductions to others from the group when the most amazing couple walked in. I don't know which of us spotted them first, but they were both mouth watering. And here we were, dressed like a couple suburban women who just got off work. LWSRN nagged me a bit for not dressing for the event -- I'm not sure whether she had the motorcycle leathers or the corsets in mind, but either would have been a bit more impressive than the whatever-is-clean outfit I was wearing.

As luck would have it, they sat down right across from us. LWSRN started whispering to me about how uninteresting we must appear in an rather ironic way. This was kind of disappointing to me. Even though I wasn't overtly looking for new partners, they were quite interesting. Okay, I just imagined they were interesting. We hadn't actually talked. We did eventually start talking (damn my shyness with strangers), and it seemed to me that there was a bit of spark there, especially with Z (the male half of this not-quite couple). Enough of a spark that I got his contact information and wrote him later. What fun! He's written back and we're discussing things, though I'm not clear on just what he might be interested in.

That was just Thursday night. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday were spent at the Loving More conference up at Harbin Hot Springs. It's the third year I've done the conference. The first year I brought L, even though we were no longer intimate. We were still sharing a home and wondering if we could make it work (we couldn't). Last year I went alone, though I'd just started dating LWSRN. This year, I brought my triad. Three years, three relationship configurations. I hope that isn't an indication of what next year will bring.

LWSRN is new to all this, and both R and I hoped she'd get something out of the weekend. I think she did. There was lots of talking about communicating within a relationship, and lots of examples of what relationships can look like. We cut quite a swath, I think. Same sex triads seem to be rather rare, and cuddly affectionate ones even more so. A number of people just had to tell us how wonderful we were.

Well, we're back, we're exhausted, and this isn't much of a journal entry. I'll have more yummy stuff later. B and I have a date tonight...